You Googled. You Wondered. You’re Not Alone.

Maybe you’ve stood in the shower debating the razor. Maybe you’ve searched “should guys shave their pubes?” or “how to trim body hair without looking weird.”

It’s okay. A lot of men have questions about grooming — and even more have quiet stories of nicks, burns, and regretful decisions involving hair removal cream.

What’s missing from most of the advice out there?
👉 Honest guidance that lets you explore without shame.
👉 Support that respects your body and your boundaries.
👉 Permission to stay true to yourself — even while trying something new.

Because here’s the truth: Comparison is everywhere — in locker rooms, in porn, in the stories we absorb about what a “desirable man” looks like.

But your self-worth doesn’t live in someone else’s ideal.
It lives in how you feel in your skin.

What Most Men Are Actually Doing

Despite the silence around it, about 50% of men in the U.S. groom their pubic or body hair regularly.
And the most common method?

🪒 Shaving.

Not laser. Not waxing. Not fancy creams. Just a trimmer or razor — quick, familiar, and relatively low-fuss.
Here’s how it generally breaks down:

What Guys Use (And Why)

It’s Not Just About Hair — It’s About Feeling Desirable

This isn’t only about hygiene. It’s about something deeper:
– Wanting to be desired
– Worrying what a partner will think
– Wondering if hair = “less attractive”
– Trying to match what you see in porn or on Instagram

None of that makes you shallow. It makes you human.
And no amount of trimming will give you confidence if you believe you’re only acceptable when you’re matching some perceived ideal.
But if grooming helps you feel more you — more aware, more sexy, more at ease? That matters too.

If You Want to Try It, Start Small

The good news is: it grows back.
This isn’t a tattoo. You’re allowed to experiment.

Here’s what I recommend:
✅ Start with a trim, not a full shave.
✅ Use a dedicated trimmer — not your face razor.
✅ Always use clean tools, warm water, and shave gel (not soap).
✅ Go slow, especially around sensitive areas.
✅ Shave with the grain and moisturize afterward.
✅ Don’t chase “perfectly smooth” — chase comfort.

⚠️ Body hair removal creams may seem tempting, but many aren’t designed for genital skin. Read everything. Test on your leg first. Stop if it stings.

Pheromones, Pleasure & Partner Preference

Body hair can amplify scent — and for some partners, that’s deeply attractive. It carries your natural pheromones, warmth, and oil.
But smooth skin can heighten sensation, especially during touch and oral sex. Some partners simply find it cleaner or more enjoyable.

The point is this:
You don’t have to choose one extreme. Try what feels good — not what you think will impress someone else.

Questions Worth Asking Yourself

If you’re unsure, reflect instead of react:

• Am I grooming for me — or to meet someone else’s idea of sexy?
• Do I feel more confident or more anxious without hair?
• What feels better during intimacy — with myself or a partner?
• Am I chasing approval, or choosing comfort?
• You don’t need a viral grooming routine to be lovable.
• You don’t need to follow trends to be desirable.
• You just need to be honest with yourself.

Final Thought: You’re Allowed to Explore

Grooming isn’t a commitment. It’s a conversation — with your body, your comfort, and your curiosity.

You can keep it natural. You can try bare. You can change your mind tomorrow.

What matters most isn’t what you remove.
It’s how you feel when you look in the mirror.

And if you’re trying to reconnect with confidence, presence, or clarity — I’m here for that conversation too.

About the Author
Brendan Abbott is a certified life coach, Master NLP practitioner, and trained hypnotherapist with over 20 years of healthcare leadership experience—including 10 years in senior executive roles in healthcare.

He specializes in helping men reconnect with confidence, presence, and emotional truth—especially around intimacy, identity, and self-image. His work includes discreet coaching for men exploring topics like desire, body confidence, and sexual well-being.

Through coaching, content, and compassionate conversation, Brendan creates safe spaces for high-achieving men to explore the deeper layers of their inner life—without shame, pressure, or judgment.

He is currently completing additional certifications in embodied intimacy and Gottman-based relationship work.